November 24, 2010 Building Self Esteem
OK, so what is self esteem? It is the self talk you have with “YOU” all during the day and night. It is how you think and feel about yourself at any given moment. The phrase “self esteem” on it’s own is neutral but when you add low or high to the phrase it makes it into something tangible.
Self-esteem starts at childhood. Women who were raised in a negative environment will most likely become adults with little to no self-esteem. As would be expected women raised in positive environments will be more likely to have high self esteem. All women though, can be affected by society’s obsession with model like beauty. Although these women are usually underweight and malnourished it’s what society says woman should aspire to.
The great news is you can change your self-esteem at any time! All you have to do is call out your inner beauty and expose the total female package you are. It will take some work and commitment on your part, but it can be done. Here are a few ways to start working on your self-esteem now:
1. Learn to love yourself. We are taught to think of this a narcissistic but in reality it is the only way to allow others to love us for who we are. You are a unique individual. There is no one else in the world like you. If we do not love ourselves how can we allow another to love us?
2. Stop criticizing yourself. This is one of the hardest habits to break. We are always so quick to view what we have done from a negative perspective. Believe it or not there is always something good to focus on in every situation, we just need to take a moment and recognize what it is. Learn to look at your actions from a positive perspective and share with yourself how well you have done.
3. No more judging yourself or others. How many times have you been quick to jump to a judgment about something that has happened only to find out that it wasn’t as bad as first thought. Once you get all the information you end up seeing a clearer picture. Find something nice to say about yourself or someone else rather than passing judgment.
Building self-esteem is not an overnight fix it will take a bit of time. However, if you work on it a little bit every day you will start to feel better every day and when you you’re feeling better and more confident about who you are, this practice will become permanent.